30 basic actions for development
What is self-awareness and how can it help you live a more fulfilling life? In this article, we’ll look at 30 basic actions a person can take to understand themselves.
You can’t pretend to be someone you’re not, live by someone else’s rules, or make choices without compromising your self-esteem and emotional health.
So how do you start living a full life?
It’s hard to be sincere if you don’t know who you are, what you want out of life, and how you want to live it. Authenticity requires self-awareness in many different areas of your life.
What is self-awareness?
Self-awareness is “awareness of one’s own identity or individuality.” This is the ability to reflect on your own character, feelings, motivations, and desires.
But I think of self-awareness as an action verb rather than a descriptive noun. I see this as a process that goes on for your entire life.
Self-awareness requires you to be a detective, exploring yourself to find out who you are and what is important to you, and then take action according to what you have learned to design your life accordingly.
Self-awareness is not something that happens magically. You must decide to search for him and explore the many-sided expanses of a unique person-yourself.
Sometimes this process can be intimidating, as it requires you to open your eyes and face parts of yourself that might not be as appealing. As Henry David Thoreau said, ” Explore yourself. It requires eyes and nerves.”
Having the courage to look at your strengths and weaknesses opens up new opportunities for personal growth, relationships, shared happiness and success in life – this is the development of self-awareness.
30 essential actions for developing self-awareness and authentic living:
UNDERSTAND YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE.
Developing self-awareness gives you the need to determine your personality type, whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, which will give you a general idea of the dynamics of your personality.
This will help you identify your natural inclinations, preferences, and motivations, as well as provide tools for improving relationships and choosing a successful career.
DEFINE YOUR VALUES.
It is very important for the development of self-awareness to define values. They determine who you are and how you want to live. By doing so, you create personal guidelines for all your decisions and actions.
Without knowing your values, you live fast, allowing life’s circumstances and other people to define you.
There are 8 main areas of life values:
- Spiritual development.
- Family and friends.
- Health, sports.
- Financial position.
- Rest, emotions.
Identify your main values in each of these areas and set priorities.
STICK TO YOUR INTEGRITY.
Your values help you define your integrity – what you think is right and wrong, good and bad. When you live out of wholeness, the development of your consciousness takes a hit, you live unreliably, with constant feelings of guilt, confusion, fear, and remorse.
RECOGNIZE YOUR NEEDS.
We all have some common needs – for health, safety, and belonging. But beyond these basics, you have personal needs related to your personality and values that need to be met in order to feel whole and secure. One of the points of developing self – awareness is recognizing your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs, and taking steps to meet them.
DEFINE AND SET YOUR BOUNDARIES.
Often we don’t realize that we have boundaries until someone crosses them. We feel angry, frustrated, or in control, but we don’t understand why.
Take the initiative to define and set your boundaries – what people can tell you, how you want to be treated, and who you want to spend time with. Strong boundaries strengthen self-esteem and emotional health and are essential for developing self-awareness.
LEARN YOUR HABITS.
Habits are behaviors and thoughts that we carry out almost unconsciously. Some of our habits are positive, but some are useless or can even be harmful and lead to self-destruction. To develop self-awareness, start focusing on your good habits and get rid of those bad habits.
UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS.
Our feelings are constantly changing, like waves in the ocean. Sometimes our emotions have an obvious reason, but sometimes we don’t know why we feel sad, angry, anxious, or excited. To develop self-awareness, take time to become aware of your emotions and find their possible cause. Keep an eye out for triggers and patterns that can help you manage your emotions or control them in the future.
FIND OUT YOUR TYPE OF INTELLIGENCE.
Intelligence is determined not only by linguistic and logical-mathematical abilities. In recent years, the theory of multiple intelligence suggests that different abilities are involved in intelligence, and that each person has a unique combination of all intelligences. You can find out your type of intelligence by taking this test.
USE YOUR SKILLS AND TALENTS.
When you identify your natural abilities and talents and improve them, you empower yourself and create opportunities for professional success and personal happiness.
Recognizing your skills also increases your self-confidence and sense of satisfaction, which is very important for developing self-awareness.
IDENTIFY YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES.
Developing self-awareness requires an honest assessment of your strengths and weaknesses. Such an assessment of these aspects allows you to make an active decision about improving yourself and accepting yourself as the person you really are. We all have weaknesses, and accepting them is a sign of emotional maturity and self-esteem.
FIND YOUR STRESS TRIGGERS.
To develop self-awareness, pay attention to stress or depression, and also look for the source of stress. Instead of blaming yourself or letting yourself get sick or anxious, manage your stress by dealing with the triggers that trigger it.
UNDERSTAND WHAT MOTIVATES YOU.
Motivation is also important for developing self-awareness. Pay attention to what excites and inspires you. What are your hobbies? What gives you a sense of satisfaction, achievement, or energy? Once you know these things, find ways to make them a part of your daily life.
IDENTIFY LIMITING BELIEFS AND ELIMINATE THEM.
We all have negative beliefs caused by past situations that we unconsciously cling to. These beliefs hold us back and create a false veil of fear and doubt, preventing us from living up to our potential.
Most of these beliefs are no longer true for us. Breaking down old beliefs, getting rid of them, and being able to live a full life is an important condition for developing self – awareness.
UNDERSTAND YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS.
Our ability to maintain healthy, fulfilling, and happy relationships in our personal and professional lives depends on our communication skills. If you don’t know how to communicate properly, you push people away and reduce opportunities for real communication, which is bad for the development of your self-awareness.
ANALYZE YOUR PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS.
Are you able to calmly and effectively solve life’s challenges and problems? Do you understand the steps required to uncover the problem and find solutions? If the answer is “No”, it is bad for the development of self-awareness.
You can learn more about the 20-minute problem-solving method here. Understand how to identify a problem, find alternatives, and implement solutions so that difficulties don’t hinder your happiness.
DETERMINE WHAT MATTERS TO YOU.
To develop self-awareness, it is important to identify what is really important to you. We all crave meaning in life, but we often don’t understand what’s important to us. For some, their religious beliefs matter. Others pay more attention to a particular hobby or goal. What is important to you and how do you make it a part of your life?
DEFINE YOUR PARENTING STYLE.
If you are a parent, have you defined what kind of parent you want to be? Do you raise children based on parental advice or books for parents, or do you have your own ideas about how best to raise children
Determine what kind of parent you want to be, and what actions you need to take to do so.
KNOW YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others. Strong emotional intelligence gives you a boost in self-awareness and is essential for healthy and happy relationships.
EXPLORE YOUR MARRIAGE OR LOVE RELATIONSHIP.
What kind of marriage or partnership do you want with someone you love? Do you live up to your definition of a strong and happy marriage?
Determine what works in your relationship and what doesn’t. To develop self-awareness, you need to honestly look at yourself and your contribution to difficulties or misunderstandings. What actions can you take to improve your relationship and align it with your vision?
DETERMINE THE LEVEL OF VULNERABILITY.
A beautiful quote that I found on the Internet about vulnerability “Emotional vulnerability is when a person completely surrenders to the joys and sorrows of giving and receiving love. This is when you open locks and break down walls by being open and transparent.” The development of consciousness also includes the ability of a person to open up to another person, to be completely transparent and real?
ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR.
According to Wikipedia, “passive-aggressive behavior is the indirect expression of hostility, for example, through procrastination, sarcasm, hostile jokes, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to perform necessary tasks for which the person is (often clearly) responsible.” Do you see yourself in any of these behaviors? Passive aggression sabotages your relationships, negatively affects your self-awareness, and undermines your self-esteem.
LEARN WHAT CAUSES ANGER.
Pay attention to your feelings of anger, how you express your anger, and the circumstances or people who may have provoked it. Develop a plan to manage your anger, communicate calmly and maturely, and avoid situations that provoke anger. This works great for developing self-awareness.
RECOGNIZE AND HEAL THE PAIN FROM THE PAST.
To develop self-awareness, let go of your past. Raw pain from your past will infect your happiness and success. Identify where old wounds are still causing you grief, and see a professional therapist to help you overcome those wounds.
EXAMINE YOUR ASSUMPTIONS AND BELIEFS.
Often we have beliefs and assumptions that we once accepted but never challenged. They may have come from parents, peers, social expectations, or lack of knowledge. Studying your assumptions and beliefs is necessary for developing self-awareness.
Look at all of your beliefs and determine if they apply to you. Research opposing opinions so that you can fairly review your assumptions from all angles. This will broaden your horizons and make you a more balanced, understanding and interesting person.
ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOU HAVE CAUSED PAIN.
Honesty is a sure way to develop self-awareness. Have you hurt or offended someone? Do you need to apologize and make amends? Be honest with yourself about the pain you’ve caused and take steps to correct it.
PAY ATTENTION TO THE WORDS THAT YOU SAY (CHOOSE).
To develop self-awareness, pay attention to your speech. Our words have power for both good and evil. Do you speak words of kindness, acceptance, and love? Or do your words reflect judgment, resentment, or uncertainty? Think carefully before you speak, and choose your words carefully so that they reflect truth and kindness.
TUNE IN TO YOUR BODY.
Your body sends you clear messages about what’s going on with your emotions. It also lets you know when you’re not taking care of it with healthy food and proper exercise.
Pay attention to your body’s signals. A healthy and beautiful body is essential for developing self-awareness.
PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR FEARS AND ADDRESS THEM.
Working out your fears is an important condition for developing self-awareness. Your fears may warn you of danger, but some fears are not based on reality or truth. Examine your fears to determine how they hold you back and whether they are legitimate. Start challenging unfounded fears by acting in spite of them.
FOLLOW THE VICTIM’S MENTALITY.
Victim mentality is a developed personality trait in which a person feels powerless and victimized by other people. Once you accept this trait, you will begin to recognize your sacrifice as the truth about yourself.
Sometimes we use victim mentality to manipulate people as a form of passive aggression. To develop self-awareness, it is important to get rid of an unpleasant trait, so as not to undermine your self-esteem.
BE ATTENTIVE TO THE EXPRESSION OF LOVE.
To be completely sincere and vulnerable is the ability to openly express your love to people in words and actions. This ability is essential for close and personal relationships. Do you openly and constantly express your feelings of love to those you love? If not, then today is not too early to start.
Developing self-awareness in these 30 basic activities will give you the opportunity to be completely yourself and live an honest, real life. When you can be completely yourself, create your own right mindset, and live on your own terms, you will experience more happiness in your relationships and your work.
Only by living truly can we become self-fulfilling, fully functioning, emotionally healthy, and mature. As you practice developing self-awareness, you will find that you want to explore the depths of your true self, and that exploration itself is an exciting and life-changing adventure.
Examples of self-awareness development
Do you need something more specific to recognize yourself? These few examples of self-awareness development may appeal to you.
Example # 1: Identity
All your life you have felt uncomfortable in large social groups. Even though you love your friends, you often want to go home during a party to spend time alone.
You feel guilty for not being as sociable and outgoing as your friends. And they don’t understand why you sometimes leave and why you need to be alone.
When you study your personality traits, you discover that you are an introvert, and most of your friends are extroverts. You recognize that your personality type is normal and natural, and now you feel confident enough to explain it to your friends.
You are better able to manage your social life and the expectations of your friends, and you feel more comfortable being yourself because you have taken the time to understand your personality.
Example # 2: Limiting beliefs
In sports, you’ve always been afraid to try something new. Do you remember when you were a kid and finally had the courage to try out for the soccer team and lost? You felt humiliated and defeated.
This memory, along with several other similar events in your life, made you believe that you are not athletic. After that, you simply stopped making new attempts.
But as you’ve explored this “I’m not athletic” belief, you’ve discovered holes in your assumption.
You admit that you painted your abilities with a broad brushstroke of failure, based on a few individual cases.
You recognize that you can exercise by trying something new for yourself. Or maybe it takes constant practice and effort to become a good athlete. Or that you don’t have to be an expert – you can enjoy sports and practice them, even if you are “poorly” versed in them.
Example # 3: Assumptions and beliefs
You grew up with parents who had religious beliefs, and they passed those beliefs on to you. Your parents are loving and kind, and you have always taken it for granted that what they taught you was the best and only way to believe.
In fact, when you talked about religion with other people who thought otherwise, you firmly defended your beliefs with the certainty that you were right and they were wrong.
But one day you read something that made you doubt, and this question gave rise to a shadow of doubt. As uncomfortable as it may feel to be wrong, you’ve taken a step forward and started exploring your own beliefs, regardless of what your parents taught you.
Now you’ve decided how best to practice your spirituality – or lack of it. You feel more authentic and independent in your beliefs because you’ve taken the time to explore them. And you are more accepting of those who share different beliefs.
Example # 4: Victim Mentality
There is no doubt that you have experienced some difficult situations in your life. These experiences have broken you down, and called into question your ability to succeed in your career and relationships. The lack of success in these areas has further eroded your confidence and self-esteem.
In fact, you’ve found yourself justifying failures and bad relationships by blaming people from your past and treating problems you’ve encountered as a reason not to try again.
You are trapped in a cycle of real and imagined sacrifice. But you finally feel so tired of this cycle that you seek help from a therapist and learn that you can heal your past and create a better life for yourself.
You find that by remaining a victim, you fall into the trap of failure and misery, and recognizing your victim mentality frees you from this. Now you are ready to do your job, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, to move forward in life and enjoy the results of developing your self-awareness.